Natalie Paul, the founder of Nadany Enterprises Inc.; is a mother, entrepreneur, trauma survivor, spiritualist, empath and intuitive life coach. With the completion of her life coaching certification with Transformational Academy, Natalie launched Nadany Coaching, an extension of Nadany Enterprises geared to business, spiritual and trauma informed coaching.
As a trauma survivor, Natalie suffered silently for many years with mental health issues that her family did not understand and that often held her back from living her life to its fullest. It was a car accident in her late 30s that got her to get the therapy and help she needed to rise above the fear, insecurities, low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety disorder to start living again.
Natalie has a deep admiration and appreciate for 1. The people who have been through trauma and find the courage to journey through the healing process and 2. The therapist and people who deal and help people like herself heal from it.
The journey to recovery is an ongoing one, Natalie would say, and having the right support system is key to healing and achieving success. Her personal journey to healing and understanding the value of the therapeutic technics she learned in therapy has fostered a passion in her to empower others to transcend the limiting mindsets brought on by trauma, heal and achieve their dreams and goals.
Her Story
Natalie was born in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. Her father left when she was around 3 years old and she was raised by her single West Indian mother and Canadian born brother. She was a first generation born Canadian by West Indian parents. There were a lot of cultural clashes that involved various types of abuse. She was kicked out of her home for the first time at 11 years of age.
As her life story can be triggering to some, Natalie would prefer to not go into details of the abuses she endured, suffice it to say, it was a lot. Somewhere during the chaos, she was living, she realized she was on a path to nowhere and decided to move in with her father in Alberta.
The move came with its own challenges which left her feeling, for lack of a better word, broken. You see, throughout it all, no one recognized that 1. Some bad things had happened to her 2. At the heart of it, she really wanted to be a good person and 3. Those bad things may have triggered mental health problems. 4. She needed help that her parents were not equipped to provide.
Her Turning Point.
Natalie eventually moved back to Montreal with her mother and brother, but a lot of damage had been done to her and her family. She was alone dealing with a lot of hurt, resentment and pent-up anger. Her life was a roller coaster until she gave birth to her son, Darius at the age of 25. Having her first child, wanting a better life for him and wanting a better relationship with him than what she had with her parents; gave her the courage and motivation to start facing my demons and change.
Facing Some Ugly Truths.
The ugliest truths Natalie had to face were also the most liberating ones. They were:
By repeatedly telling her story in non-productive ways, she was mentally reliving the trauma over and over again. She was no longer being actively abused but was still actively feeling the victimization in the retelling of the story.
She was often on the defensive and hyper- sensitive about everything. At times her emotions would run so rampant and overwhelm her to the point she would just mentally check out, now known as dissociation. That needed to change, big time. After all she had been through, she realized she deserved to create and be present to enjoy a better future.
The next thing she struggled with but came to understand and accept was the notion that her abusers did not have to acknowledge or take responsibility for what they did to her, for her experience and pain to be valid. At the time their refusal to acknowledge how their actions affected her, kept her mentally reliving the past and constantly frustrated at being ignored. This triggered many arguments, violent displays of anger which eventually led to her being regarded as the villain.
Depression got worse, she was lonely and tired of fighting for her life. She pushed a lot of good people away from her with her need to fight for every cause. These were genuine friends, family, social workers, and therapist who were only trying to help. Natalie came to realize her truth did not need to be validated by anyone for it to be real. She knew what happened to her and who she was and became as a result of the journey.
The need to forgive. Forgiving her abusers, a work she would say is a work in progress and did not make what they did to her alright. She came to understand that forgiveness simply meant she could place the responsibility of what happened in its rightly place, with the abuser. Their issues were their own and Natalie realized she did not need to carry the weight of their demons anymore. To know Natalie now is to know she is a woman who does not hold back telling her truth, as to her facing truth is the most effective way to heal. Knowing where you are now does not define you. It only allows you to navigate your life better by getting on the bus headed to your desired destination.
Onward & Upward
Debunking the Myths About Therapy.
Natalie comes from a culture that even to a day like today, struggles with the idea of getting therapy. Sad but true. Seeing a therapist, counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist to many, is akin to saying you are crazy and can be regarded as embarrassing to both the person and their family. At a certain point, Natalie’s mental health had gotten so bad that it was more embarrassing for the family to not let her get the help she needed. It took several attempts over multiple years and exposure to different kinds of therapy modules before Natalie felt a significant change in herself, could put some of her defenses down and believe in people and life again.
The Truth, according to Natalie, is that therapy and counseling have evolved a lot over the years and so many misconceptions about mental health have been debunked. Going for therapy from time to time or regularly if needed is a good thing, a self-care thing and helps give people back control of their emotions and life. People can project more happiness in the world once they foster happiness within.
On An Empowerment Mission… One That Includes Others.
Natalie’s mission and the reason she became a holistic life coach is the joy she gets from helping people claim their lives back and achieve success. Her passion and the rest of the road to her healing lies ultimately in helping others overcome limiting mindsets, heal, and surmount life challenges successfully through Nadany Coaching.
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